The smallest of details are what makes each one of us unique. Our ability to be different and set apart from the crowd is something we all pride ourselves in. May it be a unique hair color, eyes the shade of ocean blue in a family of brown, the ability to draw and create, or a skill for math. These things are part of our biological makeup and each unique character trait we treasure as our own and wear with pride. We also like to fit in, be part of the group.
We want to think and feel like our neighbors,and find comfort in this familiarity.
Its funny how the uniqueness of a blue eye is embraced, and a gorgeous shade of red hair is often sought after, take a look at the hair dye isle if you need proof. We are told to embrace your inner beauty, be yourself, set yourself apart from the crowd, walk to the beat of your own drum. Leaders never followed the group the stepped outside of the box. Yet Down syndrome or any other sort of similar uniqueness is still considered to be a mistake,a biological accident, a bad thing. You rarely hear Down syndrome thought of as a biological wonder, or a chromosome enhancement.
Why? Who sets the standards, who is to say what is not typical . Gorgeous auburn hair is not typical but someone decided that it is good, but almond shaped eyes are not. Who decides what intelligence is, are you smart because you have perfect grammar, or because you can sense the feelings of others with out words. Is intelligence based on what you can achieve or how you love the people around you. When standards are set and ideas become the norm, then danger is usually close behind. Take a look at our history, what has happened when people try to perfect a society, where blond hair and blue eyes were considered the only form of perfection. This equals danger. Don't think we are not here, major corporations like Etsy refuse to remove greeting cards insulting people with Down syndrome, they claim this does not violate their no hate speech policy.In our society it is not ok to be racist or anti-Semitic , but the differently abled, they are fair game.
I did not mean for this post to go this way my fingers have sort of taken over. Ive had a week where this concept has been challenged in a few places, and I'm getting all warrior advocate momma on ya. Life is a blessing and every different little beautiful part of it. Step out of your box, move past words like typical and normal, start embracing words like different and special. Having a child with Down syndrome is a blessing, and i never knew i was missing out on so much, so much light, so much love, so much deep inner soulful intelligence. The only thing that makes it hard is society, and the rule makers. They make Down syndrome hard they make my daughters life hard, not her, not her extra chromosome. Take the rule makers out of the picture and what we really have here is perfection.
I love you my little Rozie just the way you are from the moon and back a million billion trillion times over.